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The most unfortunate, and seemingly lowest act one person can do to another, is dishonor their faith and trust they’ve earned, all for an impulse that can either be controlled or worked out in ways other than acting on them in a way that causes self doubt, the feeling of betrayal, and ultimate heart-break.

Cheating, and being cheated on has got to be one of the most avoidable, yet most practiced, events in today’s couples. I’m going to talk about the easiest first, the practice and how to determine if you’re being cheated on; secondly, for cheaters, how to avoid cheating, and being a better person. Honestly, I don’t think that anything I can say to a cheater would ever get them to stop, and neither would a cheater read a post about something that hits so close to home, especially if its something they do and try not to pay attention to… Oh well, though.

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How to Cheat & Detect a Cheater

First thing’s first, how to cheat. If there is one thing about knowledge that’s clear, the more you have it, the more you can use it in your favor. I’m not giving the guidelines on how to cheat so you can practice these simple steps; I’m basically arming those who are being cheated on with the ammunition they need to understand their situation, and of course then go onto detection.

Cheating isn’t some form of martial art that takes years to practice top master; all it takes is the unfortunate truth, some lies, and actions. The unfortunate truth is simply one of two things

1. Not being fulfilled in one of the core aspects of what they want in a relationship
2. Grew up in a broken home or were abused as a child in one way or another

Neither of these are good. The second is severe psychological baggage, that’s for some reason, so severe, that they act on it in their own personal lives, and self destruct what they have going for them by either dating the wrong types of people, or getting the right kind of person and messing it up with impulses they seemingly can’t control. There’s help for them; but that requires counseling, usually in the form of a couch and a clipboard.

The first is a trick about honesty, but not to the person being cheated on; rather, the person who is cheating and how honest they are with themselves, and in their decisions. First off, there’s normally nothing wrong, fundamentally, with the person being cheated on, and the reason they’re being cheated on doesn’t have much to do with them directly as a person, but more of an incompatibility that they have toward the person that they are with. Problem being, the person cheating is aware of this incompatibility and will actually just lie to themselves and try to look past it, until they fill whatever void it is they feel they’re missing in their relationship.

Cheating, in regard to incompatibility, starts the second the relationship begins. There’s a fundamental moment at the start of the relationship when one person sees a quality in that significant other, that they don’t actually appreciate. Normally it’s something personality-based, unless there’s some shallow physical attraction issue, in which case… that person shouldn’t be in a relationship at all, they should be out at bars dry humping drunks.

Regardless of the foundation, cheating requires a means of secretive communication; be it cell phones, online messengers, social sites, or work relationships; most commonly anything that is accessible consistently, easily, and privately. One of the main tricks of a cheater is to appear to be constantly busy or on the run, but extend that to private as well. Relationships take open honesty between two people, and when that’s not being practiced, perhaps something is happening that shouldn’t be. Talking to someone on a personal/intimate level is actually a form of cheating, regardless. All cheating starts somewhere, and it will usually start with a conversation that shouldn’t ever happen; the infidelity is in the action of going down a path that disrespects and dishonors your relationship, regardless of sexual outcome; and if you deny you’re in a relationship, that’s even worse.

Another factor is the event of whatever action it is that’s taking place that dishonors the relationship. Unfortunately this can happen at work, on lunch breaks, while one or the other is out of town on business, or (if dealing with a complete liar) when they’re supposedly out with friends, family, etc. There’s nothing anyone can do to actual stop the action from taking place, unless being codependent doesn’t bother you, which it should. There’s really nothing to do if the person cheating is to the point of executing the action anyway; that situation is already lost.

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Detecting a cheater is simple; all it takes is some attentiveness. Strangely enough, if you’re attentive to what’s going on, chances are you don’t have to worry about being cheated on. Here’s something to consider; paying attention to your significant other could help in seeing what they see as “lacking” in the fulfillment department. In no way does that excuse cheating if you’re not paying attention to their needs, but it also doesn’t excuse someone for not paying attention to the person they’re with.

The fatal mistake a cheater makes, more often than not, is to simply do one or all of the following:

• Accusations of dishonesty without rhyme or reason
  • - They come home and start accusing you of cheating
  • - They consistently don’t believe you about even the most trivial things
  • - In conversation; you find yourself on constant defense for no reason
• Sudden bursts of confidence
  • - or even submission
• New, unannounced ‘things’ in the bedroom
  • - Positions
  • - Methods
  • - Hand placement
  • - Aggression
  • - Emotional Absence
• Sporadic and noticeable emotional distance changes
  • - Guilt can drive someone to all of a sudden appear a lot more affectionate
  • - Being cold and short, at the most trivial times, or all the time

Granted, these are just generalizations, but honestly; if you’re concerned, and you haven’t cheated yourself, then chances are you have just cause. If you feel as though you have just cause, and start actively looking for these things, you can also just be looking to make you right, as opposed to actually being right. Overall, the best thing to do is talk to one another, not about cheating, but in general. Find out about your relationship, even on the ugly levels… Its a relationship, there’s no need to pretend its perfect from all angles, that’s just stupid optimism and wishful thinking. Get real.

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What to do?

If you’re being cheated on and you know it, what do you do? Step one, end the relationship. Step two, never look back. Forgive and forget is for things like, forgetting to introduce you to their friends right away when you go out to someplace, or fibbing about menial stuff that has no bearing on their character (at the beginning of the relationship)… Yes… I just said its o.k. to lie; this is written for HUMANS to read. Cheating is a fundamental character flaw with that person, and/or a fundamental flaw in your relationship and compatibility. Allowing yourself to be cheated on… one more time… Allowing yourself to be cheated on; is just as bad as being cheated on. Not only is the person you’re with fucking around with you, you’re fucking around with you, and just making your situation worse.

People often use the “Love” excuse. This is bullshit, and I’m fucking sick of hearing about it. Love is a two-way street, end of story. If you love someone, they love you as well; and true/real love doesn’t include cheating. If you don’t value your heart, and don’t value yourself as a person, you’ll have no problem being involved with someone in a non-true relationship. People lie to themselves every day and cope with the hardships they are dealt because for some reason they think life isn’t messed up enough without the self-destructive side effects of staying in an emotionally abusive relationship.

If you tolerate a cheater, you need to ask yourself “why”; and then ask, what it is that makes you devalue who you are enough to allow yourself to be treated like someone who can be disrespected and dishonored. Is it just the way things are? Perhaps I’m single for a reason; I refuse to settle for someone I don’t want to be with. That’s the simple fact of it all. I’ve been in situations where I wasn’t fully happy, and guess what? I ended it; as opposed to just going out and finding something to fill the void. Being honest with yourself will keep you from cheating, just as easily as it will keep you from being cheated on, or tolerating a cheater. Inner-honesty boils it all down to, if you’re being cheated on and you tolerate it? You’re neither no better off, nor doing yourself any bit of justice… Care for yourself and your heart; you’re relying on you for support on these things.

enrique
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The cornerstone in our society is Information and Truth. With avenues such as Internet and Digital Video Recorders for televisions, Information is not only almost freely available, but it’s there for the taking, ripe, ready to eat, and choke on if you don’t have the right sources. I’m not sure how many times I’ve hinted toward, or even flat out said, both in blog and conversation: “American media is full of shit, has been full of shit for decades, and I blame Time Warner and Viacom”.

The influence that the media has over people is ridiculous; creating hundreds and hundreds of sheep every day, feeding you lie after lie… all the while, using their “credibility” as method for creating fact. The good news is, this all relies on a system, and the structure of that system; and this system existed before the Internet. Slowly, the mass media mind-job is beginning to break down, but, not nearly far enough. Here’s the problem:

The System:

• Mass Media
• Politicians
• Religious Groups
• Large Corporations
• Secret Societies

Before you all go fucking nuts because I mentioned Secret Societies: Free Masons, IOOF, Skull and Bones. It is no mystery that these organizations exist. It is no mystery that the Skull and Bones, literally, invented the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA). It is no mystery that Masonic orders and their members not only formed this Nation’s Constitution, but also influenced the enforcement of it, and have been a part of the System they created ever since.

There are two subsections to these bullet points. Subsection one is “Power” and the second subsection is “Communication”. This isn’t some conspiracy theorist jargon, this is simple fact. Communication is Mass Media and Religious Groups. Power is Large Corporations, Secret Societies, and Politicians (in order from most influential to least)… think I’m “off” about the Politicians being the weakest link? Go look up what a Lobbyist is, and dig for who the “big players” work for, then look to see if they belong to a Masonic order (good luck with part two of that assignment).

Thus, the two most powerful parts of this nation are Large Corporations and Mass Media. Take a company like Time Warner. A massive corporation that is not only vast in their business, but also a media mega-machine. Now all you have to do is figure in this; when they report, how much is true? Hell… how much of it has to be true? I’d say just enough to ensure their credibility stays afloat; and if you’re not being ethically sound, providing misinformation, or doing the “cover up” everyone is always suspecting; simply gain credibility by using the one system you have the most control over.

More media.

I’m not sure if anyone actually watches Fox News, or believes the Associated Press anymore, but if you’re reading this blog and you do believe those two clusterfucks, chances are you’re either working for the government, or hoping to god you can catch me in a “whoops” and say “SEE! He’s not right!”

Well to keep the government on their toes, I guess I can say this, “Stop doing your job; you’re no good at it… If it were up to me, I would be the first one in line to stand up a new replacement system that over throws your shitty government; don’t worry though, it would still be a democracy”.

I don’t really give a rat’s ass about the people looking for the “whoops”. Enough of that for now; let’s talk Media.

It is completely feasible for misinformation to hit your eyes and ears every time you hear “this just in”; it is completely feasible for you to be lied to, and for large scale cover-ups to take place, every day. It has happened, it will happen again, and I’m pretty damn sure something happened in Washington D.C. today that will affect your life down the road, negatively, that we don’t even know about since it never made it out to the Newsroom… God knows where the information stops… OH! At the boardroom.

Well, what do you do with a system that’s so polluted, but so believed?

I’ve been plugging this site all day, and all weekend, and will continue to do so until my fingers are callused, bleeding, or worse – little nubs attached to knuckles. I’ve NEVER boasted about a news source, I’ve NEVER talked up a media source, and I’ve NEVER promoted a site that I didn’t create… Until now. NewsMata.com is the source for Truth on the Internet. Literal, unfiltered, uncut Truth on tap. For those of you into Philosophy, you know what the capital T in Truth means… Anyhow, basically this site gathers news stories from the global news conglomerate, and clusters them together based on relevance; to allow you to see the same story as it’s written by every available news source.

Funny, you’d think that this idea would have been thought of already and even more so… that the news from all over the world about the same exact story wouldn’t really be all that different… But here’s a good “down to earth” example for you. Find a police officer and ask them this, “at the scene of a crime, with lots of eye witnesses, how many versions of ‘what happened’ do you get?”… Let me know if you find an officer that can say “just one”. Then go find a lawyer, and ask them, “how many rock solid cases did you have, where there were dozens of witnesses willing to testify, and it still didn’t go your way due to credibility?” They’ll have an example, if they’ve been out of college long enough. It’s an age old story, happens all the time… These are facts.

Eye witness accounts are pretty much worthless nowadays; and it’s gotten to a point where video evidence doesn’t even work all the time. In fact, facts aren’t deciding factors in trials, credibility is. Same premise, pointed toward the Media and your news sources. Take for example Google News, Fox News – especially, the Associated Press, CNN, CBS, ABC, NBC… and put them on trial. Don’t stop there though; there are over 400 news sources at NewsMata.com; compare, contrast, and see for yourself the very thing I’ve been harping about over and over and over again.

Countless times, I’ve been called a conspiracy theorist, which in itself is a stupid ass term, reserved, I think, for the people that think ALIENS are responsible for 9/11; and I mean the fucking slimy green ones from outer space. So finally, proof to all my ranting about how fucked up the system most of you are trapped within. You, sitting there, reading my words, are finally equipped with the truth, in an easy to read, open discussion, web 2.0 site that’ll inform you, give you knowledge, and allow you to formulate your own opinion, instead of just swallowing the one Ted Turner wants you to choke on while he sucks the activist out of you through your eye sockets.

Good thing is; at this point, I’ve told you everything you need to know to see the truth for what it is, you have it, right here, right now, it’s available to you… and those of you that are too caught up, and want to take the blue pill? Go right ahead and get left behind while the rest of us intelligent people take your boss’s jobs, and get to a point to fire your sorry asses for being worthless, mindless zombies.

enrique
fillosophy.net : admin
www.n-re-k.com

In order for a good basis for a fundamental philosophically themed argument, such as this, to be established; a few assumptions need to be made, but not just provided… explained and given.

First, the assumption about time. Since time is a unit of measurement that is intangible, but assumed by man, to make sense of things and keep track of cycles, seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years, decades, centuries, millenniums… are all facts and items in our day to day vocabulary, but much like “run” in its noun form they don’t actually exist as a tangible object, but as a representation of a witnessed event that is obvious. “Run” is different in that it is executed by someone or something, and can be performed and stopped at will of what or who is in control of that action, as opposed to time, which simply is. In stating that, we can conclude that time isn’t an action or thing, nor does the word “time” itself actually represent a tangible, logical, item or action that can be imagined or pictured. But we, as humans, can logically determine, through the association of our understanding of time, that there is a past, there will be a future and the few seconds that our mind processes our short term memory could be presumably called the present. As a result, even though it is intangible, and the word itself carries very little meaning outside of the understanding of the English language, Time exists, in that we understand the concept of what it represents.

Second, an assumption about eternity. In order for us to understand what eternity and infinity actually are, we can look to the stars. Space is the only tangible form we have of infinity. Not that we can touch it, but that we are in it, and we can look up every day and night and see it. To analyze, briefly, the differences between eternity and infinity, infinity is a mathematical term used to represent eternity, wherein eternity is more for usage with the representation of time, and infinity would more or less be representative of space, for use within this article anyhow. Hence the interweaving of the two terms as though they are one in the same, when in fact they are merely synonymous, but only for what they represent. What do they represent? They represent the span of an item that is too vastly inconclusive for man’s primitive mind to fully understand, and is thus, never-ending, never beginning.

The third part, creation, and in no terms do I mean “Creation” where in there is going to be biblical fall-backs onto some story from Genesis, or other book of religious significance, that really holds no bearing over what is actual. Creation, in terms of how most people think of it, is making something, or someone, for the matter of this writing. In order to create an object, or even a person, something needs to be used as a material to first start, then other materials to then finish, whatever it is that is being created. Even if it is something such as nitrogen atom, energy needed to come together at some point to generate that core element, and a charge needed to be applied or triggered in order for it to properly become a nitrogen atom. Though this isn’t an assumption, as much as it is a derivative, something must be created from something else. For those religious fanatics that are out there - even you can agree that Adam was created from something else, its in the Bible, go look it up.

So we have time, eternity, and creation. The three things that make up existence. Time, in that we are here, now, and have been here then, and will be here later. Eternity, in that existence itself is the representation of what is, what was, and what will be. Creation in the representation of what has been here, what is here, and what will be here. What, how and when we got here can be derived from these three factors of existence as well.

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Creation; everything that is here today was and is begotten from one source prior. Be it, energy, proteins, spare parts, or raw materials. In that regard, all things here have been here for all time, and thus, are simply compiled at this moment to exist as they are now, and later will be something else again at a later point in time for all of eternity. We do not know how we came to be, but we can attempt to explain it via stories, assumptions and research. When all we are searching for is the details for the obvious, which is, we are, and we started from everything that is… There will be a time in the future when we are not here, and we do not exist, but the components of what make us are will be, and will continue on after. In that, you can think about where energy comes from, and where it goes once you are no more… and start to derive what you might think I’d say about afterlife.

enrique
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