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Normally, I’d steer clear of nailing down on a subject that would appear more hypocritical than seeing a priest in an F-Street sex shop on a Sunday morning preaching about how pedophiles are bad people, but a little space to justify my personality record from time-to-time on my own damn blogspace is far from uncalled for I believe, especially if it’s about ego.

I’ll start with “my type”:

Confident Egoist
These types know their abilities, in fact, they’re so intimately aware of what they’re capable of, they refuse to allow anyone to tell them otherwise. Confidence is a great thing to have, when it’s true, I’d say - most people who have a skill would love to fall into this category, especially if they were a business owner. Having a ton of confidence in your abilities gives you the ability to take risks that you normally wouldn’t if you were unsure you could “pull it off” or not, and you have to be able to just think you’re the best you can be at what you do enough to pretty much make leaps that “non-egoists” would remotely ever come close to trying.

Problem: These types are often type-a personalities as well, directly being assholes to others in order to stay in charge of their situation and refusing to be a team player, lame. This causes all sorts of stupid, and makes it very hard to deal with and take advantage of what this person actually has to offer.

Suggestion for these types: When dealing with others, make sure you forget you’re a total ego-centric douche bag long enough to hear someone out, and try to learn something new, hear something different, and consider other possibilities other than their own.

Hell, everyone should give that a shot, actually.

Self-Righteous
These people are, in my mind, near the top of the list of “Types You Don’t Need To Know, Ever”. In fact, I think it’d be safe to assume that most people, even those that are self-righteous, hate people that are self-righteous. These are the people that never talk about anything without it tying back to them, they can’t hear anything without automatically thinking about how it relates to them or effects them, and they never get involved in something that doesn’t benefit them in one way or the other. They think their ideas and plans are the best ideas and plans ever. They only openly listen to others so that they can say that they do that. They automatically internalize pretty much everything someone says about anything… you get the idea.

Problem: To be honest, the problem is the person. I’m not sure how it happens, but these people normally have a very distorted view of themselves and apply/project/request a self-value based on this distortion. They “think” they’re the greatest thing that ever walked the earth, and 99% of the time… they couldn’t be more incorrect. So, all in all, the problem is weeding these folks out of your schedule.

Suggestion for these types: I’ve never actually met a self-righteous person that believed they were self-righteous, didn’t confuse being self-righteous with supreme confidence, and didn’t try to justify who they were without looking at how “everyone else is just like them”. They’re too far gone to help… so my suggestion is simply - Take a moment and stop being yourself.

Power-Monger
Oh… the humanity. There are those types that buy Boardwalk, and refuse to play any longer if they can’t. They don’t really have much to bring to the table, but they want to take control of whatever is on it. They are so self-overrated that they think nothing (in their arena) could ever get done right if their hands aren’t all over those that actually know what to do and how to do it.

Problem: These people are useless, deep down in side they might know they’re useless, and will usually default to personal mudslinging and random drama junk to ensure they can stay on top of those that should be organizing a coup to rid themselves of these clowns. They often cause more work than needs to be done, just to keep their “I’m important” badge on their lapel, and also to make it appear as though they understand what’s going on around them.

Suggestion for these types: Tip, first. We (the skilled) know you’re worthless, but are unfortunately for some reason or another forced to deal with you constantly. Need to feel fulfilled in life? Go manage a Starbucks. I don’t want to have to deal with you in a skill-based field, and I’m sure most skill-based people are tired of putting  up with you pissing in our corn flakes.

enrique
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Here’s an interesting thought, trust me it all makes sense near the end…

I say the real world is a place where people, for the most part, are lacking common sense, common decency, common courtesy - they’re lacking intelligence, knowledge, insight, creativity, attention-span, wonder, sense of adventure, risk, passion, romance, and selflessness.

Those of you whom are intelligent, pride yourselves on your brain, and use it to gain knowledge, and more often than not will consciously be aware of your intellectual superiority and not understand why people think you’re a pompous fuckbag that deserves to be lead by someone less intelligent than you, and you are bitter for it, never ending your quest to simply find like minded people, and ultimately ostracize those that you find annoying because they’re a few mph slower than you.

Those of you whom are passionate-optimists think the world of people, and humanity, and always hold on to a grain of hope in your heart that things are always getting better, and people have good in them no matter who they are. Optimism is a blind road to travel, mixed with passion, and you’ll eventually just end up one of those people that are so clouded by their surroundings that you’ll think “everyone’s the way that I am, because that’s all I see”. This of course files the passionate-optimist under close-minded and completely lacking understanding and knowledge.

Those of you whom are insightful, creative, full of adventure, risk and selflessness - and are 100% honest about those qualities… well, most of you end up working for an international organization handing out food to starving children, and I think that’s great! But take out the 100% in those qualities and we have a typical artist or author, that’s simply living a dream built on empty hopes, and short term (or shallow long term) goals that will simply act as a self-fulfilling motivator to prove their decisions were the right ones.

What the hell does this have to do with … Debate? Well, first allow me to explain one thing. I can take anyone’s life and point out the bad, that’s just the matter of fact of things, and most people can do this as well… unless you’re eternally passionate-optimistic. Mostly I’ve just described my faults, as an intellect, as a passionate individual (especially when I’m feeling optimistic), and as an insightful, creative person - with a small sense of adventure, huge risk taker, but also somewhat selfless when it comes to working with those I respect around me.

Over the years, I’ve become increasingly aware of the factors that are involved in understanding where the mistakes in decisions come from within myself, and I explained that to a friend of mine the other day:

“I keep my curve as level as possible, keeping my peaks and valleys of good and bad at a minimum, allowing me to sway one way or the other quickly, without going too far into the depths or heights of one or the other… this keeps me clear minded, my expectations level headed, and my decisions solid, and carefully created”.

What does that mean? My Curve, in case you missed it - is the mind/soul/heart attitude and awareness. I keep them all at an even playing field, as much as possible, and when one gets overly excited about a great idea, the other one will kick in and either support or fail. If all three items aren’t in sync with one another about an action, decision, or idea - than it gets abandoned, or written down to revisit when another scenario arises that could help bring that idea into view again.

This does… what? Keeps my emotions from getting the best of me, keeps my random soul on pace (most of the time) and ultimately - keeps me very level headed when dealing with people-situations. The adverse effect of this, and what other’s don’t understand most of the time, is, it also allows me to see which one of your 3 curve-items are out of sync, and use those against you in an argument, decision, scenario, or debate.

Beneath the foundation of all things surface, on the core fundamental level (think critically with me people), you have the common factors of all things in your life that drive everything you say, do and act on. Some people are more emotional than others - consistently. Some people are more consistently methodical. The creepy ones are consistently on “auto-pilot” (soul driven) not using any heart or mind in their decisions… yikes.

Most people will always be in one state more than the other two, which makes them “who they are” to others, but also, most people (I say most, because sociopaths don’t really have all these options) will be in one state or the other of the three at any given time. It’s a matter of how fast you can place them in alignment with one another to ensure when a decision is being made, that has an impact, that your clarity in that decision’s outcome is actually in alignment with the greater picture, the longer term goal, and how that decision will effect the other decisions around it… thus making you, a pretty interesting person to debate with.

This “person-set” is about creating a balance within yourself, and using that to create an understanding in you that will allow you to ultimately be able to decipher others and which state they’re in. Creating an advantage in a discussion, if they’re imbalanced, and if not - you have a good debate ahead of you.

By debate I mean, of course, life decisions that involve others. Arguments, and discussions are just forms of debate, but one has too much emotion, while the other has too much brain. Compromise has too much brain, not enough intelligence, and sacrifice is just someone getting taken advantage of and losing. I choose my debates with others carefully, but more often than not will choose the 5 outcomes I’m looking for and work toward those while debate is evolving… I’ll have to get into that one later though, I have work to do.

enrique
fillosophy.net : author
enrique-gutierrez.com

Here’s a lesson on predictability, namely with people, and specifically with dealing with typical people. First, for the purposes of the philosophical requisites of this site, I’ll define - Typical People: The common person in today’s society, the system of individuals everyone knows I absolutely adore </sarcasm>; is someone that lives up to the expectations of a smart and compassionate person. In other words, they lack compassion, intelligence, soul, heart, feelings, romance and/or common sense/decency/courtesy.More definitions

Soul: That person you are inside that tells you to be a respectable, respecting person to yourself, and to those you come in contact with. We can also call this the common decency engine.

Heart: Being able to confront and admit to feelings beyond your thoughts.

Feelings: Related to heart, but more in the sense of ego, as in, attentiveness to other’s feelings based on how you would feel under a similar circumstance. In most cases, most people, don’t “care”.

Romance: That little thing that used to drive men to achieve great things to win the hearts of a woman, and vice versa. This has been replaced, as I’ve already once gone over.

Common Sense/Decency/Courtesy: Again, from another post. These are the ability to make decisions, and act, as though you should toward others, and with regard to yourself. These qualities don’t take intelligence, nor knowledge, they merely takes the ability to pay attention, and pay respect… Some other rarities.

Compassion: Acting from the heart and soul toward a goal or outcome.

The Observation

Considering most social situations lack most, actually most all, of the above qualities; and thus most people lack these qualities, they’ve been re-defined by those people to these new synonyms:

Soul, you can now call, Stuck up.

Heart, you can now call, Emotional.

Feelings, you can now call, Sensitive.

Romance, you can now call Pansy.

Common Sense, you can now call Pompous.

Common Decency, you can now mistake for boring, clean cut, gay or metro.

Common Courtesy, you can call Trying too hard.

Compassion, you can now call Pathetic.

What people will commonly do is quickly judge the negative aspects of a person’s personality if they are compassionate, heart-felt, and romantic - and blow those qualities out of proportion to make their own inadequacies seem more socially acceptable. Even me typing this, I’ll appear as though I have some kind of superiority complex, and of course its even worse, since I’m able to talk shit about the typical person with such clarity, there will be no room left but to escape to discrediting the personality characteristics I portray. Even better, I’ll get the usual hate e-mails and comments that I’ll have to start approving, just to show people exactly what I’m talking about.

With that crap said, let me get to the point:

Here’s what I’m dealt. The general lack of understanding, and even worse, my general lack of tolerance, just leaves me with the seeming inability to mingle with others. Either they don’t “get it” or I’m unwilling to share what the fuck it is I’m even doing… You’d be surprised at the reactions I get for simply listening to someone, and providing feedback into a conversation, consistently. Giving someone undivided attention is mind blowing to most people, and its interesting to see reactions when doing something cordial or polite just out of nature, and respect for someone.

Here’s an example; I go out to dinner with someone, they get the door to the restaurant opened for them, they walk in front of me, they sit down at the table first, they order first, they’re engaged in conversation about themselves as well as their day, and they’re listened to. Their dinner is cordially paid for, and there is no hurry to leave. There is a walk after dinner for more conversation, and when walking, they walk on the inside of the walkway. The car door is opened for them, and when in the car, they are, again, engaged in conversation about themselves or their friends, etc. During all conversations, if I can relate in a non-selfish manner, stories are traded, and shared, but bragging about the bullshit successes in my life are saved for random conversation or story sharing. Date conversation is about expressing similar differences between likenesses in stories, not to boast about achievements and brag about what you’ve done.

What happens as a result? Well for the most part this is completely new to most people, and if it isn’t, it was done by some assmongrol that’s just playing up the gentleman role to get in the good graces of someone’s ass he wants to wax and share his hidden camera adventures with his buddies over brews and football the next day. Lame. As a result, here are the conclusions:

1. Skeptical: Being too respectful means that I obviously just want something and I’m acting up some player role to get what I want, which would ultimately, of course, be ass.

2. Distrusting: I’m hiding something… I mean, what other reason could there be for me to put up a front of cordially polite gentlemanly traditional actions? I must be a rapist or something.

3. Turned-off: I’m simply too fake to actually think that I could ever engage in conversation with someone, I mean - why the hell would a guy ever listen to a girl anyway? That’s just crazy…

4. Appreciative… but: (These are my favorite) What the hell am I thinking? Treating my dates with respect? I’m sure its nice and all, and the date totally thinks I’m a sweety… but… Really? Who does that shit? Why? For what? Respect is over-rated for sure, and getting to know someone as opposed to just filling their gaps with man-pole and forgetting their name the next day, or moving onto their sister, is a much better way to live life.

5. Scared off: I must be looking for some kind of long-term wife material if I’m over here playing up some Casanova act. Honestly, and you know - the women I date would much rather spread legs than spread thoughts… Leaves out moral obligations if they end up not really being appreciated.

Can’t relate? Come to Southern California - where 7/10 women have been run through a ringer of lies and deceit by all the morons money could muster up. and the other 3/10 seem to be too busy taking care of their Chihuahua, Fluffles, to actually pay attention to someone long enough to give them the respect they deserve.

It’s a whirlwind of tainted, shallow, vapid youth - and even though I’m not so “youth” anymore, I’m still not old. Too bad the generation before mine wasn’t more hard-pressed on instructing their offspring how a real man treats a lady, and how a bitch should act to be considered a lady instead of a vapid cock-catcher.

Oh well though, huh? I enjoy it. My standards stay up here, as I watch all those other people go through Mystery Method-type rituals in order to get some play, get knocked up, and get wire-hangered so they can go out and do it all again the next weekend.

enrique
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